Well, that is a beautiful example of expectations, FD. Not only do we have expectations of those with whom we have relationships, but they have expectations of us. And boy, do they run deep.
I feel weighed down at present by expectations of me as a woman, a daughter, a member of the (non-US) middle-class, a graduate amonst others. S'not easy. And another great topic to explore.
I have to learn to detach from those expectations. And then learn how not to trip up over all this recovery stuff that is laying around the place....