Mine was detachment.
From Courage to Change.
"What does another person's mood, tone of voice, state of inebriation have to do with my course of action? Nothing, unless I decide otherwise.
For example, I have learned that arguing with someone who is intoxicated is like beating my head against a brick wall. Yet, until recently, I would always dive right into the arguments, because that was what the other person seemed to want. In Al-Anon I discovered that I don't have to react just because I have been provoked, and that I don't have to take harsh words to heart. I can remember that they are coming from someone who may be in pain, and try to show a little compassion. I certainly don't have to allow them to provoke me into doing anything I don't want to do.
Today's Reminder
Detachment with love means that I stop depending upon what others do, say, or feel to determine my own well-being or to make my decisions."
I certainly don't have to allow them to provoke me into doing anything I don't want to do
Oh man. The amount of times I have gone down this road. Still do. It's a very hard habit to break. Because I do want to do it, you know? When I am provoked, I react. I try and remember the word responsibility......that I have the ability to respond, Try and put a pause in there somewhere, hopefully before my eruption.
Detaching is hard. At first, I had to physically remove myself from the room. Sometimes, I had to get in my car and just drive. With practive, I am able to make non-commital noises and go and do something else but in the beginning....man, I made it known that I was **** well detaching and don't you know about it.
It helps, though. Removing yourself (physically or mentally) from the source of the madness when there is drink involved makes for a more peaceful life.
How do you detach?