Originally Posted by
Summerpeach 
I'm sorry HURTING, this was my post close to 7 weeks ago.
My ex and I were just about to go back to couples group and I caught him cheating. I knew he was needy for female attention, but never thought he could cheat.
He didn't seem too sad I left him, I mean he was sorry but not remorseful and never asked to come back to try again, which pretty much told me, he was still seeing this other woman and maybe others as well and probably still is.
My ex told me the same thing in that he liked the attention. Addictions are a disease of the ego and even without an addiction, the rate of men cheating is high.
The pain from this has got be back in Al Anon, a 12 strep groups and even therapy.
I'm going full force into healing me and will never allow anyone to treat me this way again.
I know this hurts
I actually sat on my hands for around 10 minutes, and decided, against my own better judgment, to post anyway.
I am a man and I never cheated, my last 3 wives (ha, there were ONLY 3 total, whataya think I'm nuts?) however, did cheat. Part of what I'm currently working on is why I felt so little self worth as to get involved repeatedly with women with so little integrity.
Statistically speaking the genders are pretty equal in the cheating department:
Are men cheating more than women? Recent studies reveal that 45-55% of married women and 50-60% of married men engage in extramarital sex
Oh, and as along as I'm hanging my azz out there, pretty sure the revenge stuff was tongue in cheek. You know, a little humor!
Thanks and God bless us all,
Coyote