Welcome Andy. When I first realized my husband was an addict, I felt the same way. I didn't want to type the words, to utter the name of the drug, to even let myself believe it. I guess I felt that would make it all too real for me.
But, over time, there have definitely been some points of amazing, love-filled LIGHT on this forum. Keep reading. You'll see how alone you are NOT.
Love to you.