If you're not an alcoholic it won't be a bother not to drink again.
If your wife has a problem with your drinking, it doesn't matter if your an alcoholic or not.
People who don't have a drinking problem don't generally wonder if they do, in my opinion. And also in my opinion people without a drinking problem don't come to a recovery website and spend paragraph after paragraph describing and rationalizing every sip of alcohol they take.
Just my 2 cents.
Give it up for a few months, see if you can answer your own questions.