Another "hook" my XAH had was guilt.....especially at first, trying to make me feel guilty. The hooks were my cat who lived in his old neighborhood, she was half wild, (the cat is missing/dead). I would call the neighbor who said the cat was fine. Then there was sex that worked for a couple of times until I woke up. NC is really best and I have now moved 25 miles away and that is suuper. Out of sight, out of mind....mainly. No texts, no email, and no more phonecalls.......QUIET...... Serene....... No drama or chaos..........nice.