Well I understand what cynicalone is saying and believe that you have a valid point and have every right to feel that way, I still do not find it neccessary that she become so involved that she said that to me.
I am not saying that my bf would never hit me(because anything can happen out of my control) but he hasnt and would want to keep it that way. Which is why I came to this site for advice. And though he is in recovery the verbal arguments hurts me just as bad as anything and I needed help to get my head straight...what you all are kindly doing.