By removing your daughter from this situation you are protecting her , not taking anything away. No one was saying that she should never see her father, but it sounds like perhaps there should be some supervision at this point. I know you probably don't want to hear it, and it may not apply in your case, but if there are threats being made, items being thrown, people being pushed or prevented from calling for help, etc. that is child abuse in CA. Failing to remove a child from an abusive home has had many mothers arrested in our county..often it is the wake up call they need.