Steve I believe to some degree we all came from what are now called dysfunctional families.
I took mine into the throes of alcoholism and drug addiction and died in the process of getting sober and clean. However, ......................................... what was and is the most beneficial to me (and it all started 3 weeks shy of my 36th birthday, so no reason why you cannot also do this) is THE TWELVE STEPS.
They are in both Al-Anon and AA and NA. First I WORKED those steps with A SPONSOR who had also worked those steps. Then I started to learn how to LIVE THOSE STEPS with the help of the SAME SPONSOR that was also living those steps.
I live those steps today and have for many years now.
They are a WONDERFUL way to clean out THE WRECKAGE OF OUR PASTS and move on to a SATISFYING, FULFILLING LIFE.
Sounds to me like you are ready for Al-Anon.
Thank you for starting this thread. Hopefully, you will be able to stay on YOU!
Love and hugs,