You know why they say when you are having trouble with a girlfriend wife, husband or whatever in AA they say well if they stay around it doesn't matter. Or you talk about how your job sucks and they say it doesn't matter. The truth is it doesn't my life was an equation and every year it was a different girl a different job. Atleast now I can have a rock to talk to other people in AA or atleast have decent knowledge of the big book.