Hang in there, Phineas. Break-ups are hard. Healing takes time.
I, too, am trying Al-Anon and not feeling the immediate benefits, though just knowing the groups are there and that I can attend is comforting. I went to at least a half dozen meetings in the last few weeks and there was only one where while I was there I really felt like I was hearing things I needed to hear. But I think I will keep going back. I like the idea of developing a network of people who've had similar experiences and feelings to mine.