but is it ok to hang out once in a while?
No I M H O it is not. See my post on your other thread. This is the time for you to FOCUS on YOU, not her. Every time you talk to her, you go right back to focusing on her.
I M H O it would be best if you go NO CONTACT. Every time you talk to her you are right back on the ROLLER COASTER OF DRAMA.
J M H O
Love and hugs,
ps It took me another 2 1/2 years to find recovery after my family and friends cut off the 'life lines'. They hung up when I called. They closed the door in my face. But to this day, I believe that is what speeded up my downward spiral to my own personal bottom and the willingness to seek recovery.