Steve,
Sorry, but all the red flags were waving in the wind. She is not ready to quit. Your trying to control her recovery, could never work. When and if she is ready, she will find her way, all by herself. Just as it must be. When she is sick and tired of being sick and tired and has fallen to her knees, perhaps she will embrace recovery.
All I know is that you are only prolonging any chance that she may have for recovery. You are not helping her.
You are obsessed with her, why is that? Don't you have a life of your own? Friends? Hobbies? There is something out of wack here.
Please take this time to work on you, get your life together, go to meetings, see a therapist, get some help to start your recovery from codependency.
All said with concern.