i do not mena to be rude, but i really cannot understand why, when i want to help her it becomes nothing more than me wanting to save her. Yes, i want her to get clean, and yes i would do whatever it takes to assist her in that. I understand the saviour complex and all, but this is someone i love. isnt normal to want to help? If her being clean meant that we would not be together ever again, i would accept that. this is as sincere as i can be. i dont want ot see anyone suffering, let alone her. i am grieving the loss of a person i love deeply. i did not believe i could save her, but i did believe that there was a chance she was ready and i wanted to be there for that. i know through and through that i cannot stop it, that only she can and i am in pain that for now she has given up trying. sorry if this came out wrong. but i am not trying to ride in on a white horse.