The more you talk with him and show him yourself...your thoughts, feelings, state of mind etc the more info he has on "how to handle you".
I don't think you want to be handled.
This is your life, health and happiness and your responsibility to your son.
I know you want to make good decisions.
I once used to be so gratified hearing that I was just the best thing that ever happened to this man in my life.
We all overlooked whether he was the best thing that happened to me.
I, too, couldn't believe what I was accepting from him since, like you, prior to that I wouldn't have put up with even the first occurence of wrong....I had bowed out on guys plenty times before.
Something felt so special and different tho'.
I have to tell you it shredded all my dignity, my heart, warped my mind and nearly ruined my life.
It took alot of counseling and reading to get a clue on what had happened to me.