Alcohol abuse and alcoholism is something you can see...it is ongoing and clear in front of you.
Verbal and emotional abuse is rather harder to sort out.
Your first post you said you were in a fog.
You can simply assert the right to step back to recoup until the fog clears.
How reasonable is that?!!!
Anyone would want time to reflect!
To re-consider any commitment.
That's perfectly sane, let no one convince you otherwise.
Doesn't all this push and constant pressure feel a bit like harassment now?