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Old 09-10-2010, 11:47 AM
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Chino
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I detached from daughter and she lives here, but the whole dynamic changes with a spouse. I don't know?
Any ideas on what I can do to truly focus on this step for real?
I starting saying the words "I'm powerless" and "it's not personal" over and over again. Every time I wanted to control someone or something else, I forced me to control myself instead. I had to take the "fake it til you make it" route for a while and it was painful, I had to want it really bad. I made a mental list too, of how I wanted to respond. I made it a goal.
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