chicory-
why don't you try moving yourself to a new apartment, as that worked last time? or, why don't you go move in with one of your daughters for a while until you can find a new place?
that way, he will be forced to deal with his own situation and you can begin your life of peace.
i think him leaving jail is a great time to say you don't want him back.
I called him toinght before coming home and asked if it was safe to come home, if there was going to be a problem. he said, " I was wondering the same thing"
i don't understand this quote of yours above...you say you want him to move out but then you ask him if there is going to be a problem. why are you asking him? YOU have a problem with it. that's enough. it's your home.
oh, and by the way, "a friend gave it to me" is the oldest and most used excuse in the world. from where i sit, it appears highly unlikely that his getting busted for pot smoking is a one-off situation because a friend gave it to him.
naive