Well, it really doesn't matter whether he is "white knuckling" or not.....if it isn't working for you it isn't.
Do you know what?!? We don't even have to have a reason to say: it is time for me to attend to my own life and my own happiness and "this" is what I have decided to do.
relationships for me....I want them to be a warm, snuggly place for me.
remember....the right to pursue happiness is a constitutional right! LOL
hugs!