I am staying out of that but I still feel horrible it is family and unless you have gone through this you don't understand it is not a personal thing that this is what addicts do.
Cherrie,
I think nearly everyone who has responded to your thread has been through this with a family member, especially a child.
Speaking specifically for me, I have two addicted children. One is 29 years old today and in a lock down rehab for a parole violation (related to getting money for heroin) and one who will be 18 in September, just finishing up her third rehab with two years of probation in adult court now.
I wish someone had shared with me what the people are sharing here with you. This is hard won knowledge, it is against instinct to be harsh on your children and see them uncomfortable. If you do not let him suffer these consequences (alone) the consequences will get worse. You cannot rescue him from his own life.
Give him the dignity to repair this damage himself, and he can feel in charge of his life.
Thank you for reading.
Beth