Originally Posted by HealingWillCome

Umm, I'm kind of confused here. No, I didn't take him back because he was still active. That was someone else, maybe?

We were together for two years. After the first year, we broke up due to his drinking and his realization/admission that he needed help for it. Six weeks later, he came to me and was in counseling and working on recovery. Not in a 12-step program, but working on recovery, trying to do it with the counselor. After it looked like he was doing well, I naively took him back. Not much later, he was smoking pot and drinking again, and I realized I was always going to be 2nd place to the addictions. That was when I ended it, 5 months ago.