hi katie-
alcoholics will use any and all excuses for their drinking. this is normal part of their denial.
the reality is that when we blow the cover on their alcohol abuse, we then get in the way of their first love...the drink!
i hope you aren't taking any of his gibberish personally. you got in the way of his partying. this has no reflection on you as a person.
i doesn't sound to me that he is truly in recovery if he is still blaming you. people in true recovery take ownership and responsibility for the damage done and take steps to make amends.
just keep working your own recovery, katie. keep the focus on you and what it is that you want in your life and in your relationships. it might be helpful to step all the way back from him and see what a bit of distance reveals to you.
naive