Originally Posted by
Summerpeach 
welcome Theuncertainty.....this really helped me too.
I found this over a year ago and it was such a relief to put a name to it.
I spoke about it in Al Anon and was told this is a common tactic amongst addicts, wet or dry. Their brains cannot compute they could be in the wrong, so at all costs, will seek and destroy.
It's sad actually. I cannot even imagine the pain a person feels to have to be like this
It's their own ego that causes it for a large part, I believe.
Imagine being in your 30's or 40's and having little to nothing to show for your existence on this planet, and that your only accomplishments have been to ostracize your friends and push your loving family out of your life, to the point that they want nothing to do with you anymore.