Originally Posted by
littlefish 
Wow! I learn something from SR everyday! I am a recovering alcoholic with major codependent issues and when I read this thread about gas-lighting,...so much about my relationship with one of my brothers came clear like a bolt of lighting.
All the times he said he "never said that". (when of course he did). Or didn't do that, when he did. All the times he tried to recreate history and try to convince me I didn't hear, didn't see, didn't experience something that I actually did hear, did see, did experience. I mean, I was there. Yet he tried over and over again to imply I was befuddled and didn't remember..got it wrong, I am a dingbat, etc, etc.
same here. I would say often say to the ex "So what you're saying is, you never yelled at me. You never said "this or that", and you're saying I was the one who yelled"
and he was clear and said "yes"
I would alway feel like I needed to tape record our talks because I started to question my sanity.
The mind of an addict is that twisted, I don't think it's with bad intent.