Originally Posted by
4mylittleones 
I know I have to stay no contact but... How do I do that when he is now risking his job?
What is it you think you can do to change him, or what he is doing, if you DO have contact with him?
I agree with Suki--you should consider paring down your expenses so your and the kids' welfare isn't totally dependent on his getting his act together. If he DOES get his act together, you can throw the "extra" money into a college fund. But at least your welfare won't be at the mercy of his disease in the meantime.