Trying to reason with an active alcoholic is like trying to reason with a tree. You aren't speaking the same language.
The active alcoholic only hears us saying blah, blah, blah. The active alcoholic will say or do anything to keep the calm as long as they can continue to drink.
The partner of the active alcoholic basically hears quack, quack, quack everytime the alcoholic speaks. The active alcoholic will twist, deny, blame-shift, manipulate, etc... leaving the normal person feeling twisted about like a pretzel.
So while she is justifying another drink picture the big white AFLAC duck
I don't want to make light of your situation, it is serious. I wanted to point out the lack of communication going on while our loved ones are active in their addiction. The addict may only be able to speak half truths, and only be half listening because the addiction is talking louder than we are.
Keep doing what you need to do to take care of yourself and your son.
Here is a post that contains steps loved ones can take while living with active addiction:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...l-problem.html