The last part about your husband Kmber- I think that is it! whether we are called "codies" (thank you) or "enabliers" or the smucks that take all their crap
As spouses or other loved ones I think we just want to hear
"thank you for your love and for standing by me through this" and have them REALLY mean it.
AMEN!
It's funny because I had no idea what co-dependent meant either but about three years ago I remember a friend of mine mentioning a book to me after I sobbed to her about a breakup with a bf that had relapsed (very familiar story from me!) and I was like... huh, ya don't say! - but never gave it a second thought.
Now thanks to this wonderful website and all that I've learned from all of you strong and beautiful people, I need to text her and tell her that I've accepted that I'm codependent and will get help!!!
Thank you for starting this thread chrisst and a big thanks to the SR family!