Originally Posted by
msmelrem 
when he gets angry it is because of me being a real B* and that's when we get into our yelling outbursts...but doesn't other marriages have that too? ...... I fear confronting him because I do not know how he will react.
These words ring warning bells to me. I was in an abusive marriage when I was young and for a long time I took the blame for my XH anger. I would also rather not confront him about anything out of fear. When I finally realised that my behaviour had nothing to do with his anger and that he got angry with whoever was in front of him, I got the perspective to know what to do.