Hi LiteHorse,
It is sad to know your son is going to be confined in jail even longer. I wish that was where my son was now instead of being a quadriplegic confined to bed or a wheelchair. He was in the Navy four years right out of highschool & came home with a big alcohol problem & some drug use.
He was in the VA Hospital off & on after his initial discharge to go to his own home with caregivers. He was a very active outdoor person so this must be hard for him. He has never talked with his Dad or me about driving his truck over a cliff while drunk. This happened in 2002.
He is living in an Adult Family Home for Special Needs & gets excellant care. He is about 100 miles from us so we see him more often than before. He is not much of a visiter or phone talker unless he needs something.
I have had a terrible time handling this but finally a counselor showed me how to change my emotions & feelings since this was a situation that cannot be changed. This really is helping me so I don't feel so sad all the time.
He is 40 years old & has two sons 18 & 16. They live near us & their Mom helps us with taking them or picking them up when they spend the weekend with their Dad. The oldest one has a car now so they don't need rides until he goes to college.
I wish you the best for you & your son. Even if it feels like we are not making headway on communication it still seems like our son loves us a whole lot.
kelsh