I post a lot over at the "friends and family" forum (because I had two marriages to alcoholics--one of whom is now sober over 30 years and the other who is, I believe, still drinking himself to death), and someone else commented recently that they seldom feel that the recovering alcoholic gives them enough credit for their support.
Of course, that is their own resentment speaking, but really, spouses put up with a hell of a lot through the drinking years, then recovery comes along, and *bam* suddenly there's a whole new situation where the spouses feel left out and unappreciated. I think alcoholics whose marriages make it through recovery learn that, although their sobriety has to take priority over everything else, they owe amends and attention to their relationship with their spouse. Effort needs to be put into that, too, especially after the first period of new sobriety, whether that is rocky or euphoric.