I was not an idiot for staying. I was doing the best I could do at the time. I've learned a lot in the last six years and I'm living a healthier, more peaceful, and productive life as a result. One thing I've learned about kindness is that it begins at home. I've learned to be good to myself and treat myself with the same kindness and respect I try to show others. Name calling is a self-limiting and self-destructive behavior and I've made a concerted effort to stop berating myself.