His loans were set up to direct debit, so it was relatively easy to overlook. But I put a stop-payment on them yesterday. (I always paid all the bills and managed the money, and it was easier to set it up that way.)
I had actually figured that I might use his loans as a bargaining chip in the divorce... and my lawyer suggested I just keep paying his mother and the loans - but if it's just going to drag out, I will put it back on him.
Thanks for the reassurance that this is usually the way it goes. At least we are scheduled with a really good mediator - the one my lawyer wanted, who she says will really push for a settlement.
One day at a time...
Maybe the house will sell before the market gets worse... Ug.