Welcome Suzie.
I want to comment on your husband's attitude. You can't change it, but you could try to help educate him. Alcoholism is a disease. For non-alcoholics who wish to not drink, the advice of "just don't drink" is simple, easy and effective. For an alcoholic who has both physiological and psychological issues regarding alcohol, that advice is not only hard and unrealistic, it is potentially deadly. I would encourage you to learn about the disease, and find ways to educate your husband.
I would also strongly suggest finding support in your community. Online support is great, and for some, the only option. But for the vast majority of people, there are options. These include inpatient treatment centers, outpatient treatment centers, mental health professionals, counselors, and AA meetings.
Having someone to talke to face to face, having someone you can call at any given moment is invaluable in recovery.
I wish you the best and keep posting!