Originally Posted by
Suzie12 
People without this problem dont seem to understand how difficult it is.
Nor do they have to understand it, Suzie. 'Why don't you just buck up and be more in control?' is a commonplace observation. It's well intended, and makes perfect sense to a non-alcoholic.
Originally Posted by AA Big Book 1st Ed., pg. 20
Now these are commonplace observations on drinkers which we hear all the time. Back of them is a world of ignorance and misunderstanding. We see that these expressions refer to people whose reactions are very different from ours.