12step,
this is the nature of the relationship: you have a need, you ask for him to be there for you, and he is simply unable to be. inconsistently unavailable. he didn't return your call, yet he was admittedly on the phone all day. just what was his priority?
we experience freedom when we stop setting ourselves up for disappointment.
i hope you are doing ok, and that your surgery went well, and that someone whom you can trust to be there for you, is.