He had just become president of the drug court alumni because he Chose to run. He was in the program because he Wanted to be. Sigh... I'm just talking in circles right? Cuz its all a moot point at this juncture... my heart and my mind don't always agree about when to stop analyzing and agonizing over something.
Know the other thing I still really wish I had an answer for? The unfaithfulness. If I'm to believe all I've read about how an addiction thinks about themselves and their high and that's basically it... where does being unfaithful come in. Even his mom (who knows all his secrets) says he's inverse been a cheater. I suppose its possible he was before we met, but honestly.... in all the stuff I've dug through (and that's a ton) uncovering lies... I've yet to find any indication that anything remotely unfaithful happened before he started using.
Lying, stealing, manipulating... all go hand in Hans with addicts... so how and why does cheating magically fit in there?