Today I received an e-mail. My mother died.
Two weeks ago I wrote here that my father had found my email address and against my wishes had sought to contact me and as a result I fell of the wagon.
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I was pre-warned and when the mail from my aunt arrived I could read it with some detachment. I could see the manipulation for what it was and the heart string pulling left me cold.
I will grieve (as I have grieved throughout my life for the relationship that never was) for the damaged sad woman who gave birth to me here in my new country and I am so relieved not to have to attend her funeral.
I will not drink and share this day which also happens to be our 23th wedding anniversary with my equally sober husband.
Bless you all for being here and for you journey towards sobriety which I am able share with you.