Yes, he is killing himself with the booze. Yes, the children are being damaged.
So are you although I didn't see you say that.
He did tell you that the booze was his number one priority.
I think that is heartwrenchingly sad and painful!
I hope you will read the stickies at the top and continue to post here.
You are hurt and damaged and you will need to look at things through several perspectives and begin baby steps towards your own healing so that you can have a good life and share that with your children. You deserve that!
Is the eldest old enough for ala-teen? Sounds like that could be of great help!
Untreated alcoholism is a progressive disease and heartbreak.
I am so sorry for the situation that brings you here!