you need to tell hubby you are taking antabuse first...so he understands how serious you are. and you may not be able to make him realize why you are annoyed with him and the neighbors...., but you can impress upon him that you think he is "planning" to drink and how you feel it will interfere with his progress and may drive him into a deeper depression.
take care of yourself and put your needs up in the front. try to explain to your husband that the neighbors are the last thing both of you need right now.
i wish you the best and hope you feel better emotionally, congrats on 12 days, you are fast approaching the 1/2 month, that is a real accomplishment....soon you will feel more "even".