Thanks for this, coffee: setting and maintaining boundaries is a process, and it takes practice
That definitely feels true. And this: being around people for which you don't have to do this because they just respect you all by themselves, is helpful
That one really hits home. I'm doing better today but I had felt so depleted that I don't think I could figure out where to turn. I think it's related to my angry part--it was like a wall that kept the difficult stuff out (sorta) but it also kept the sustaining energy of positive people out, too. After my Alanon meeting yesterday I could feel the decrease in defensiveness, but it creeps back in...it helped when I got to the tears yesterday--all that soft stuff under the angry defense.
Connecting with positive people who respect my boundaries feels extremely important, especially right now. Thank you for that insight.
posie