Thanks Thumper. I like the sound of that method. It sounds better than mine. Sometimes I try to think "what would I do if this situation weren't the result of drinking?" I mean, had my H just passed out asleep from being naturally exhausted, I wouldn't have thought twice about putting the little guy to bed to help him out. But sometimes this "method" of mine doesn't work. Sometimes it's difficult to piece out what's the result of drinking and what's not.
The boundries issue is even further complicated with him being "just" my step-son (with his own biological mother being very much his real mom -- they have split/joint custody). In fact, was just recently feeling proud of myself that it seemed as if I'd gotten the hang of all that (boundry wise)... and now there's this added complication coming up. ::sigh:: Ah well, life is a journey...