easy now! I said he was fantastic then i found out all this.....yes, i listened to what he said about the previous addiction and the hitting the woman and didn't run right away. my bad. I'm not experienced with this. perhaps i should have executed the same lazer beam judgment i would with my kids. i didn't. but i have now. i am not making excuses for him. i'm not trying to consider being with him. that's a done deal. I'm just sad, ok? he wasnt who i thought and he wasn't as good as i thought. i was foolish to ignore what he said, i see that now, but in that moment i gave into the idea it was ok. its not ok. i get it.