I so agree with Sesh's post! and all others, for the attorney will try to intimidate you into giving up. You have rights, even if you had to leave. You could say you were afraid for your life and had to leave. that does not mean youo have to give up everything. you need your own lawyer, tho , it would cost you.
my x's did not have to present any papers, even tho my lawyer asked. he got away with it. the judge is the final word, no matter what your hubbys lawyer says. so present your own case well. defend yourself, and do not just wait for all to be said and done.
If you dont have your own lawyer, you will have to speak for yorself, if you want your side to be heard.
good luck ! and do not listen to his lawyer, or him, about what you will get!