This sounds like it's still ALL about him. I hope you will be strong enough to take your life back. I think he needs a wake up call. YOU DO HAVE A CHOICE, it's not all about HIM deciding what HE wants. Both of you need time away from each other for different reasons.
Thank GOD you are not financially dependent upon him. I say protect yourself, your life and your heart....I see lots of heart break down the road.