Glad to hear it, but the most important thing is to make sure you and your children are safe. If you fear that he might become violent, please don't be alone with him when you tell him. Make sure you have at least one other person (preferably a large male) with you. Do not leave him alone with your children. This may all sound like over reaction, but trust me, when they see their world falling apart and feel the loss of control, they can become quite volatile.