Well, for me holding boundaries used to be EXHAUSTING cuz I was around people who didn't respect them.. (namely my kids!) I know all too well the feeling of wanting to give in becuz you are just too depleted to fight anymore. Fortunately I was able to ask (tell) both kids (18 and 21) to leave the house.. wow did that cut down on having to tow the line day in and out! I advise minimizing contact with those who push your boundaries, and really spend time with people who respect your boundaries. It "fills up your cup" . Also for me at least one alanon meeting a week helps. The self care is a great idea too.. buy a book or cd you've been wanting or watch a movie marathon..whatever it is that relaxes you. Also use HALT.. ask yourseld.. am I Hungy, Angry,Lonely, or Tired and then actually take care of what it is that you need. Sounds like you are doing what you need to do..holding those bounadaries. It helps me to remeber that "no" is a complete sentence..hang in there!