I support you in keeping to the boundaries that are in place, jeepgirl.
Ya know that "gut" thing? Remember how it felt when you did something against what your gut was telling you to do?
She is gonna have some tough times, tough days, and some of those days it may remind you of back then. That doesn't mean it's so, though, we all just have crappy days from time to time. She'll know how to turn it around, and either will, or will not.
Peace, sister