Congratulations!
This thread is amazing! I'm grateful you came here and posted, grateful for the good people here who offered you support. You're going to be amazed at how much better you'll feel. When I left my AH I was SO HAPPY every morning when I woke up. I told people, "I feel like I escaped," but it took months to realize I had actually escaped an insane situation. I had lost myself in his sickness.
When do the kids come home? What are you going to tell them?