Thanks folks so much for your replies. You all help me more than I can say. I will try to refocus my attention on myself and see what I can do. I want to start with attending more Alanon meetings each week. I am also trying to write in a journal daily to get some of the thoughts and feelings out. I do have The Language of Letting Go in my desk here at work. I will read the "waiting" meditation. Again thanks for the support.