That is fantastic news: I had that moment too, and my sponsor helped me get there.
I told her about a year ago that it was "my lot in life" to "have alcoholic family members who manipulate me" and that I have to just put up with it.
Well, you can imagine what I heard on the other end of that phone line:
NOOOOO! YOU DO NOT have to suffer! It is not your destiny or your job to have a bad life and be abused and unloved. No, you are not supposed to have all that **** on your plate...because of fate.
It's okay to want to be happy!
Demand to be happy.....thats even better!